I AM NOT BLACK

I am a brown woman, born to brown parents, with brown siblings and I will birth brown babies. I have pinkish/creamy palms and feet bottoms, white teeth, black or brown hair, pink gums and lips (among other things) Have you ever wondered about the origins of the color black being use to describe people of color? There is this thing called color psychology, in a nut shell, its the way colors have an psychological effect on us which result in a thought, memory, reaction or emotion. For instance, if you see a green and white striped candy cane, you assume it is spearmint. If you see a brown banana  you might assume the banana is rotten and mushy but perhaps it isn’t a banana at all but a plantain, or maybe it was frozen or refrigerated.

In our society things  are specified or categorized in many ways… Color being one them. White represents things are pure, clean, Godly, perfect, calming, safe. Black often represents the opposite…dark magic, decay, filth, danger. Is it an accident? or do you think its a form of mind control that has been instill in us all from birth. It’s a reason why Angels and things of GOD are represented in white and gold, and evil things are often portrayed in black and red. Most importantly, there is a reason why certain humans are referred to as “Blacks” and others are “White.” it isn’t a mistake that Jesus is represented as a white man (Cesare Borgia)with long blonde hair even though the bible clearly states Jesus was a man of color.

If you look deeper into the color black you also get elegance like a luxury car or evening gown. Black represents strength and power like a black panther or Obsidian stone . But even still things that are rich and power still are approached with a tinge of caution because of their being misunderstood and ability to influence.

Being “black” isn’t easy, I work everyday of my life to contradict the reputation my color proceeds before me. I work harder than every one around me, I am comprehending more efficiently then most people I know. My smile is brighter than the blondest of hair and bluest of eyes. My heart is bigger than all the cemeteries and institutions used to de-thrown my people and prevent us from prospering. Yet and still I can’t escape this feeling and fear of being black, I am not black! I am a myriad of perfection, designed intentionally to be great among the ordinary. I should be feared! I am a force to be reckoned with… but not a thing to be murdered or harmed due to lack of understanding or fear. Today I write this post with a heavy heart and a purpose to motivate and uplift my people to be GREAT today and everyday! Don’t let the title they give you define you be better than your colors live your life in such a way that people aren’t afraid to pick up the brown bananas and instead feel excited and curious to see what lies beneath… 

Glow up Kings and Queen!

-J

 

From the Mouths of Babes… Pt.3

This King is an attorney for one of the most prestigious firms in Detroit and earned his spot at the tender age of 27 yrs old. He is single no children and dating. Due to his lack of free time I didn’t send him a lot of questions… Although it’s short there’s still substance. Enjoy!

Why are you single? 

Right now I choose to be single after a very stressful, unsuccessful relationship last year. I believe emotional energy is an exhaustible resource, and I I have been re-charging mine by being single and remaining free from the burdens and expectations (i.e. being responsible for someone’s happiness) of a relationship.

Are you ok with being single? 

Yes

Why are you ok with being single?

I’m ok with being single because I have more energy to put into myself and my friends. Too young to be miserable with the wrong MF.
Are you ready to settle down? 

Kind of. On one hand, I’m older and have always had a family; so, I’m definitely at a stage where I’m dating with a purpose in mind. But on the other hand, being too ready to settle down can compel a person to get into relationships that they shouldn’t really be in. I’ve done that before, and those experiences have taught me that the consequences of being linked to someone whom you should not be are steep and sharp. So I’m not really walking around “ready” so much as I am open to finding the right person to settle down with.
What do you value most about a woman?  

Her heart. Now, I think I’m most attracted to an attentive, open heart in a woman.

How can you benefit from a significant other? 

I could benefit by continuing to learn how to put someone else first. The only way to grow in love is to practice it.I could also benefit because I’m old as fuck and need to start screening these chicks for wife/ Mother skills … Ain’t nobody tryna be old as fuck with little kids.

What’s a deal breaker? 

selfishness; uncontrollable insecurity; doesn’t want kids or only wants one

Reflection: I think the most important thing to get from this interview is the fact that these answers are common sense. So ladies, guys have the same feelings as we do when it comes to certain things. Some times as women we choose to put 10 on 1,000 meaning we make things a lot more then they have to be or over analyze certain situation. Although they are common sense they shouldn’t be mistaken for assumumable answers.
-J